Do you know that feeling of working together? That feeling that we are both going to roll up our sleeves and get the work done? That’s very often the “feel” in one of my counselling sessions.

You have probably heard of counselling referred to as “Talking Therapy”, and talking is a very important part of it. Hearing and understanding your story, your wants and needs and where you want to be in life, in private with warmth and respect are all part of that process.

But for me, it is much more than that.

When I had my own counselling I could have talked for a lifetime but would never have discovered some of the excellent life skills and techniques that I could choose to use.

You might be experiencing extremely uncomfortable feelings which are having an effect on your behaviour and your life and you want to find a way to manage them. You feel like you can’t see the wood through the trees. You just want to feel happier, and comfortable and content. I have experienced that too.

That’s why I never introduce a new skill into our sessions unless I have tried and understood it first. And I’ve had over 30 years in counselling practice to try them, sometimes with unexpected results!

But I never assume anything about you or your use of skills. We start from a blank slate and work our way up. Your counselling will work for you in the way that you want it to.

I believe that everything is interconnected. Your thoughts, feelings, behaviours, physical health, situations, events and the environment. Change one and you can influence the rest. But which one do you change? Well, maybe that’s a question for counselling!